What Makes Women Fall in Love

Men have asked this exact same question repeatedly: what makes women fall in love. Generation after generation of men has walked the earth trying to find the answers to what makes women fall in love with men. Some have found true love, others have not and even for those who have succeeded in finding their one true love, the question still remains in their minds, what really did make their women fall for them?

Really, women are simple beings. We fall for men over the simplest of things; the reasons are so simple you won’t believe it. Here are some of the answers to the question what makes women fall in love:

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Make her fall for you.

Humor – ever wonder why and how the office bombshell ended up with the balding stick-thin guy from the other department when she could have Brad Pitt if she wanted to? Maybe because he makes her laugh. Making her laugh is one of the seduction tips from SIBG.com, so you better check it out if you need it. A person’s good humor is an indication of a generally pleasing personality – someone who’s easy and actually fun to be with, someone who can turn anything negative into something better, and can actually lighten anything up. Hilarity creates a general sense of happiness that is largely similar to the kind of happiness that one gets when she’s in love.

Consistency – I know someone who’s pursued a girl for over five years. And throughout those five years, he was rejected by the girl more than once but he never gave up and he did what he’s always done since day 1: prove to her that he was the right guy. Five years. Consistently pursuing the same woman.  After his really long wait, he finally got to change her no’s into one big yes. His secret? Consistency, mate. You don’t have to go lengths on efforts for your lady – just do your sweet little things consistently.  Don’t believe me? Wait for more advice on how to be consistent to impress your girl, coming soon on SIPL.

Compatibility – not every couple has this. It’s like being a match made in heaven. What makes this really effective in making a woman fall for a man is that it makes her feel comfortable and at home. There’s no awkward ‘foreign’ feeling to being with that man, like she was born to be with him. Not too much to be cheesy, but this is a rare thing. If you don’t have this, do not despair – you can make up for this with other factors.

Security – other women are so insecure about so many things – emotional insecurity, physical insecurity, sometimes even the lack of financial stability – and when they find the man that can make them feel that way, they immediately fall. In some ways, really, that’s the whole point of being in a relationship: to find someone who completes what you lack.

Physical Attraction – this is the best and perhaps only way to explain ‘love at first sight’. And this is also the easiest way a woman falls for a man. When our eyes love what we see, it stirs a gentle feeling that makes our feelings lean towards that source of attraction. However, this aspect does not hold out too long, especially when all the other aforementioned factors get into the picture.

Every Man’s Essential Tools for Dating

“Dating is never the same for any two men, or women. There are always different factors that come into play that helps decide how the entire dating process would go and how the results would be.”

Nonetheless, there are certain things that should be on every man’s list of essential tools for dating. These are the tools that will help boost your chances at a successful date – and by successful, we mean something that would become something more significant.

Hey wait up, if you want friends with benefits, then follow these rules!

Essential Tools for Dating

Hey hey hey gentlemen, get your checklists now and make sure that you have all of these things in your essential tools for dating:

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  • A good and reliable wingman. This wingman has to be someone you trust, knows you so well, and has a totally different taste in women (just to be safe, even friends compete over women, you know). Your wingman need not exactly be your best friend; what he should be is someone who knows how to talk to women and more importantly, knows how to build you up to women. After all, that’s what they’re supposed to do anyway.
  • The right dating wardrobe. You have to have a separate wardrobe for dating. It’s not at all vanity – it’s just putting more perspective, more impressive angle into your dating life. After all, you are not exactly the same person at work than you are as a lover so why not translate that into your own wardrobe too? (This helps if your date knows you from work or from your everyday so it would be an impressive breather to see you in something different and more stylish). Keep it to something you’re completely comfortable in though!
  • Cash or a trusty credit. Whilst we live in a day and age where men and women are equal and splitting the bill is expected, the first date is still almost always a man’s responsibility to pay up for it. And besides, there’s always a little thingamajig to get her – flowers, cards, chocolates, the works. So just have some ready for them.
  • A ready stash of pickup lines. You can never be too sure when you’ll need a pickup line for one or two dates. It works with some, it doesn’t with others but hey – you can never be too ready either! So just have a few lines ready – it’s pretty good for breaking the ice too.
  • Humor. There is nothing that humor can’t fix nor bridge. We all need humor every now and then and especially on a date. Make her feel good about being with you and she’ll more than likely enjoy your company as well. So try a hand at humor without trying too hard; let it flow naturally.
  • A good relationship with the women in your life – your mom (especially), your sisters, female cousins, and female friends. You may not necessarily have a female best buddy nor an expert with women but having them around will always give you a healthy insight on how to deal with and how to properly treat women. Plus the free tips and the wardrobe-slash-general-dating-advice would be very awesome.

Please also visit my previous post. Goodluck 🙂

5 Grooming Stuff Every Man Should Have in His Purse

85% of the contents of a woman’s bag have a lot to do with grooming; or at least that’s what I told. There’s all sorts of things there that are dedicated to making her pretty all throughout the day. The vainer and more look-conscious a woman, the more grooming items she carries around with her every day. There’s tubs and tubs of makeup, lipsticks, lip liners, lip balms, eye liners, powder, concealer, mascara, blush, the different tubs and the different brushes, hair brush, clips, cologne, lotion, moisturizer, sun block cream – I could go on all day about the typical grooming items inside a woman’s bag.

What you should put on your purse?
What you should put on your purse?

But a man cannot go around carrying huge bags to fit all those. And quite frankly, the world is not yet ready to see a full-grown manly man delicately contouring his eyes with several layers and shades of eye shadow or pouting his lip to perfect the gloss of his lips. And of course , that does not take away the necessity for every man to look fresh, neat and attractive all throughout the day. How does a man achieve this without having to carry a makeup bag?

Top 5 things

Well surprise, surprise gentlemen: you don’t need no more than 5 things. Here are the 5 grooming essentials on how to hack into a girl’s mind that you should always keep in your purse or manly bag (yes, I have to emphasize that):

  1. Hair gel. This could be practically any other hair product that you use for your hair (mousse, cream, etc). You can never fully trust your hair to stay the way it does from morning ‘til night. And besides, you might want to change your look at the end of the day to suit a night out so your hair product comes in handy.
  2. Deo-spray. A perfume, in my opinion, is a little bit too much inside your purse. It’s bulky and it’s glass; and besides, you don’t want to waste these precious essences over accidentally squishing the spritzer while inside the bag. So go for deo-spray. It lasts long plus it keeps even your critical areas (aka underarms and neck) free from sweat and sweat smell.
  3. Breath spray or mints. You’ll never know when you’d end up too close and face-to-face with a beautiful lady. You don’t want her to be caught off guard by the smell of your garlic steak for lunch right? And besides, you can’t brush your teeth or use your mouthwash ‘on the go’ so these breath fresheners are the best options to keep your breath smelling fresh and well, kiss-worthy.
  4. Lip balm. Okay, men. We girls are not quite ready for you painting your faces the way we do with makeup but we are quite ready for soft, smooth non-chapping lips that are nothing but kiss-ready. If you’re not comfortable using the stick balms, go for those in tubs. Trust me, your next hookup will thank me for this advice.
  5. Hand sanitizer. One of the most common ways to transmit disease-causing bacteria is through the hands; and to protect yourself and not be a channel of these viruses and bacteria, a reliable unscented alcohol-based hand sanitizer is a must have.

So besides of Five Things to Never Tell a Woman on the First Date, what’s in your purse?

Hope you liked the article. Till next time!
Bradley 🙂

Five Things to Never Tell a Woman on the First Date

Greetings 🙂

How to work on your first date.
How to work on your first date.

how to make a girl your girlfriend? Impress her! REMEMBER: First impressions last. That is why it is important to make a good one on the first date not only for the sake of getting a second date but also for the sake of not gaining a bad rep among the ladies for being a bad date, be sure not to do the ways to annoy a girl (that should hurt your dating portfolio).

And more often than not, the biggest factor that comes into play on a first date is on conversations. After all, what comes out of your mouth is always the biggest giveaway to the kind of person you are. What you tell the woman will be the deciding factor of whether or not you’re interesting enough for another date, and for a chance to get to know better.
However, not all men are born with the gift of the word. Others fumble for the right words to say, while others could not even find anything to say at all. If you are one of those men who are challenged when it comes to first date convo, these tips might just be for you.

Things You Should Never Tell on your FIRST Date

Five Things to Never Tell.
5 Things to Never Tell.

I could not exactly tell you what to say, but I can tell you things that you should never say to a woman on the first date:

  1. You look like my ex/You remind me of my ex. First off, women hate being compared (and I believe men hate it too). That’s not really the best way to compliment her, no matter how outstanding your ex had been. Secondly, you don’t and never bring up the “ex” on the first date, not even on the second. The ex is a very dangerous, traitorous topic to talk about on the first date. Trust me, your date will hate you for it. The possibility of a relationship with you in the future would be too shady for the lady – she’d think that you only like her because she reminds you of someone else and not because she is good enough. 
  2. You are my Nth date tonight. Ahh but of course, a little ego picker upper for the insecure man. Yes, it is never an indication of confidence when you brag about how many women you’ve been with for the night. The fact that you mention it is a good indicator that you are too insecure that you satisfy yourself with the thought of making a count of the women you go out with in a night; that and making sure that your current date knows that she’s not the only one. Surprise boys: it is not attractive.
  3. I’m not looking for anything serious. Dates are made to have single people meet each other for the possibility of starting a relationship. It may not work but at least you know that you’ve used the chance to start something new. Dropping this bomb on the first date puts the whole idea of dating into barren grounds and you’d make the girl feel like she’s wasted her time with a guy who wasn’t even more than just a dinner.
  4. Please pay for what you’re eating. This is the age of girl power, where men and women are equal. And yes, this is the day when men and women split the bill on a date. But that does not mean you have rub that off in her face in a most insulting manner. Women know their worth and their obligations, and they are responsible for themselves including the things they order for your dinner date. This is downright rude and unbecoming of a gentleman.
  5. I’m not over my ex yet. For reasons why this is bad, please refer to numbers 1 and 3. And PS: if you’re not over your ex, you should not even be thinking about dating. Enough said!

Here also some tips so you’ll know what to do on your first date 🙂

Good Luck,
Mr. M

Gift Ideas to Win Back Your Ex

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Send her the best gift to win her back.

I’ve said this on practically every occasion that I get to write about reconciliation and winning back ex-girlfriends: it is NEVER easy. It never was, and never will. It requires you to double or triple your efforts from the first time you’ve tried winning her. Remember: she is not the same woman she was when you first went out and chances are, she still has some grudge on you. Also, not all girls are into take two’s. Worse, if you’ve done poorly the first time, she may never take the risk with you ever again.

Best gifts to win her back

After reviewing the tips on What Makes Women Fall in Love again, win her back with the best effort you can do. But the date ideas would be very difficult, the gift-giving would be even more difficult. To help you out in this almost-desperate situation, here are some ideas:

  • A memento from your past relationship. If you’re the type who keeps important stuff, it may be a good idea to bring it out of the arsenal. Old gifts and items are a good way to tell her that you’ve never once forgotten her and that you’ve always kept a special place for her even when you were apart. And in this case, the smaller, the better. Those little, seemingly insignificant things that you kept as a memory of her will always have the bigger effect. So take out the movie ticket you’ve signed on your first movie date, or the little keychain she won for you at the fair on one of your dates.
  • DVDs of romantic movies about reconciliation. Want to inspire her to get back together with you? Why not get a little help from Tinseltown folks? She may get the ulterior motive b what the hell, it’s not like you’re keeping it a secret! Go ahead and download all the cheesiest movies that fit the theme and go for a movie marathon together. It might not be the best and most effective but she’d definitely get a message (and it would make her smile at the effort). You can also try books if she’s more into reading than movie watching.
  • A letter that tells her about how great your old relationship was and how much you regret the break up and how much you want to be with her. It is the all-in-one gift. This old-fashioned manner with SIBG.com guide on mind games in seduction will easily get you that one the chance to tell her everything in one go – especially the things that you have a hard time telling her about. Plus you get to apologize in the process Handwritten letters are always more effective so practice your longhand now!
  • A video letter. The only difference between this and actually talking to her in person is the fact that when you do this, you have a script, you can edit it out, and you can try so hard to be cute and adorable without going off the track as when you’ve done it face to face. Plus you can make all the special effects to it. You can even put it on Youtube if she’s into that kind of thing. The bottom line is, this requires tons of effort and it will leave a smile on her face.

See this article for tips to get her back from PRLog.

So which gift do you think would get you the powerful yes, the second time around?

5 Easy Ways to Annoy Your Girl

Howdy, Bradley here 🙂

So what do I write about today? Well, this one’s for all the boys out there who are either looking for the best ways to blow their girlfriends heads off and fire away their temper, and the men who are left out confused over the cause of their girlfriend’s last temper fit.

You decide which you are. Just be reminded that this is NO excerpt from the SonicSeduction mini-guide to attracting women. LOL.  Either way, read on and know the 5 easiest ways to annoy your girlfriend

  1. Not taking her seriously. So you call it ‘drama’, ‘exaggeration’, ‘overreaction’ and other whathaveyou’s. Well guess what: you may be right but she does not – AND WILL NOT – appreciate you calling her reactions that. Girls – most of us anyway – freak out over anything and everything. We freak out over the stain on your shirt, being late, the cab driver being rude – practically anything can tick us off and get a reaction. The last thing we need is for you to laugh at our reaction or at the very least, smugly comment about how useless and unnecessary it was to react that way. We have feelings, and that was what that reaction was all about. If we are dead serious about it, you should not dare take us any other way. Seriously!
  2. Doing the same thing that ticks her off. She hates you biting your nails. She does not like it when you call her ‘Dude’ or ‘Buddy’. She gets pissed over you leaving the fridge door slightly open, or the ketchup bottle cap loose. If she’s told you once about it, she’ll forgive your seconds. But if she’s told you about it three times, and you should actually have noticed how her voice escalated a few decibels at each level, you’re in for some bad time if you do it the fourth or the fifth time. Girls can be the most patient of people but if you keep doing something she does not like over and over and over, prepare for some breakdown– and your one-way ticket to an unhealthy relationship.
  3. Not helping her around. Okay, this is a little vain of us to expect men to help us around every time. But it can get really frustrating if we are breaking our backs trying to clean up the house and you’d be on your fat arse sitting on the couch, feet propped up on the coffee table and watching TV. Women can be really strong in dire circumstances but that does not mean you should just watch us suffer! And worse if you’re actually making things worse.
  4. Keeping secrets and lying about small things. SIPL isn’t really big on keeping secrets. Also, lies. LIES ARE TERRIBLE. This should technically not be on this list because this is not only annoying – this is anger-inducing. Apparently, there is a trust issue here. The thing that makes it annoying is when you guys shove it in our faces that you’re keeping something from us and you’re just not going to spit it out. It’s practically teasing and yes, it is very, very annoying. Lying about obvious things to get away can get very frustrating too. How can you deny that you ate the last piece of chocolate in the fridge when you have chocolate all over your teeth? Don’t try to get away when you cannot, especially with such lame excuses.
  5. Not listening. Gah, the most annoying thing on this list must be men’s innate inability to listen. It could be as simple as not following during conversations or it can be as bad as forgetting important stuff because he was not listening. Don’t be surprised to wake up one day with a nagging woman – you never listened in the first place! See, women are only compelled to nag because we think/believe that we keep yapping about it, you might listen. So, here: no woman would be nagging if every guy listens!

So, have you figured out how you annoyed your lady?

P.S. Don’t blame me if she’ll drive you crazy afterwards. — B.

How to Get Back With Your Ex

Before we get started on any discussion, let me just say this piece of important advice: getting back with your ex is an entirely different thing from getting back at your ex. The former seeks reconciliation, and the latter revenge. More than just a lesson on vocabulary, I am saying this early on to ward off anyone who is reading this for the sole purpose of avenging and redeeming yourself with how badly she broke up with you in the past.

See, revenge takes you nowhere. The gratification is temporary and quite honestly, it will make you look bad to the rest of the world depending on how badly you have done your dirty deed. Sure, it may redeem your ego for some time, but really, is harboring all that anger and resentment, losing to sleepless nights planning your evil plot, really all worth it? Besides, she could even be worse an evil person than you, you might just end up with twice the heartbreak because she beat you to your own plan.

So revenge is out of the list – out of my list anyway – and this is for and about genuine reconciliation in the name of love. Listen up good, because we know that asking her back after she left you is hard.. but we’re here to help.

So, all that cleared up, here are some very important tips on how to get back with your ex-girlfriend:

Reopen communication lines.

This is the first step to rekindling an old flame. This may be a whole lot more difficult if you have been separated for a longer time. Be open to rejection early on in this stage as women can get a little too defensive.  The key to nicely reopening communication lines is to start with something that you were both fond of. Invite her over for your favorite gelato, ask her for dinner at your favorite lobster house, or bring her a bouquet of her favorite flowers. These things will make her soften up to you and open up just a little bit.
Do not shock her by revealing your intentions spot on. Give yourselves time to ease up to each other again. Rediscover your friendship before you try to rediscover the romance.

You are not only doing her a favor but yourself as well.

Who knows, you might not be as keen on getting back together as you thought and this friendship stage will confirm or deny that. GO out several times not only to rekindle the old flame but to discover the person that she’s become over the time that you guys have separated.

Avoid bringing up sensitive issues too soon.

These are things that are better left for later. You may have broken up because what you had was an unhealthy relationship, or her or you cheating, or miscommunication issues. But these things need take time to discuss over in an instant. When you’re trying to get to know each other again, these past hurts and issues will only open up old wounds that she may not be ready to open again.

Find the right timing to ask her if she’s willing to give your relationship another try.

Do not just ask this in a haste; when and how you asked her will definitely affect her decision on the matter. Find the perfect moment to ask her just the same as you would ask a new girl to become your girlfriend.

Be ready to face the old demons of your relationship.

When you both have come to the right moment, when you’ve made your intentions clear, prepare to revisit old wounds. It does not matter who brings it up, it will come up sooner or later. Be ready to talk about these things calmly and maturely; your second time around at love may just be sweeter and for forever.

When She’s Ready for Marriage and You’re Not

So she’s ready for the great ‘I do’. (Or at least she makes it seem like she is!) 🙂

She talks about her friends getting engaged and getting married and how everyone’s taking the big step. She gushes exaggeratedly at the displays on the wedding shop window. She giggles a lot when somebody walks by with a baby and asks you often about whether or not you think she’s going to make you a mother. And worse, she’s already arranged for you to meet her parents.

Yes, she’s ready for marriage. You are not.

What do you do when your ladylove is looking for the great wedding bells and you’re just happy with what you have right now? Here are some tips:

Look inwardly.

Are you truly not ready for marriage? Why not? What makes you hold back on the idea of the married life? Maybe it’s just fear. Maybe you’ve seen something bad about marriage that makes you scared of it. Maybe you just want to exercise and practise interesting ways to get a girl to like you, and after the chase, you get bored and tired. Or maybe it’s just an unwarranted, useless and illogical fear about something that’s been blown out of proportions and made bigger than the whole idea of marriage itself. Give yourself some space, away from her if need be, and evaluate your thoughts and feelings over marriage.

Look at your relationship.

If you’ve been together for more than 5 years and you have never talked about marriage even once during that whole time, then she really has a reason to start hinting on you. Has your relationship been good over that whole period of time? Can you imagine yourself being with the same woman for the rest of your life?  However, if your relationship has not been longer than 1 month and she’s already talking about wedding and your mini-me’s, you seriously have to pack your bags and leave. Like, NOW.

Look at your girlfriend.

Sometimes, even the best of marriage-material of men could not think about marriage only because they are not with a woman who can make them want to settle down. But then again, whether or not she is the woman that you can imagine spending the rest of your life with or not, she deserves to know that. You can’t just keep her guessing and waiting forever because the right man might come along for her and you’re blocking the way. Make her fall in love with you even more by clearing your head and know what you want.

Make a checklist of the benefits and disadvantages of marriage.

This is so elementary and yet this is so effective. Write as many as you can think of – even the ones that you don’t believe in but have been true about other couples. Weigh in on them. Decide whether or not the advantages can outweigh the bad sides of marriage.
Seek advice from someone who’s in a good marriage and from someone who’s had it bad. It’s practically just the same as making a checklist, but with more depth and personal experience to it. Learn from these people’s insights on marriage.

Don’t let pressure from your girlfriend or other people’s opinions about you, marriage, or your relationship push you into doing something that you’re not ready for. You can’t get into marriage half baked.

Unhealthy Relationships: The Bad Signs and the Ugly Results

Are you in a healthy relationship?

A lot of people do not realize that they are actually in a bad relationship before they are in it too deep and too damaged, or the other way around – they have caused too much damage to their partners. The thing about unhealthy relationships is that they are masked as passionate and crazy love – the type that you see in dark romance movies and you hear of in punk and goth music.

The Bad Telltale Signs

Unhealthy relationships come in many forms – including abusive ones. Here are some of the most common telltale signs of unhealthy relationships:

  • Unhealthy outside relationships. People in unhealthy relationships often shun out any other relationship they have. The worst of cases include being separated and alienating oneself totally from friends and families. Oftentimes, it just includes them shunning out any forms of socialization or advice from friends and family about their unhealthy relationship. An unhealthier form of this relationship is when the alienation is due to other person’s egging, which can lead into emotional distress and your partner cheating on you.
  • Extreme clinginess and jealousy. This is the most common sign of an unhealthy relationship. While a jealous girlfriend is practically normal (and quite instinctive), extreme forms like forbidding and invasion of privacy is abnormal and yes – very unhealthy. This results in clinginess and neediness.
  • Cheating very openly (and frequently). If you or your partner is cheating in the relationship, and you or she is doing it openly and worse – frequently – you have a huge problem. Daily Mail wrote a fantastic article on how to find out if your partner is cheating– click here to read more. Also, trust, loyalty and commitment are three of the core values of a relationship next to love, and if you don’t have that in the relationship – you’re screwed. You’re even more screwed if you are the one being cheated on and you let your partner do it to you.
  • Abusiveness. It can be as common as physical abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse, and maybe even sexual abuse. This is the biggest form of disrespect and the ultimate sign of unhealthy relationship. The thing about abused boyfriends or girlfriends is that, they think and hope that they can change their partners. And so they let their partners abuse their way around them all to the point of breaking them. And they are too broken to get up before they know it.

The Ugly Results

People who come out of unhealthy relationships – if they ever come out of it – become worse lovers in their next relationships. Their last unhealthy ones will have traumatized them so much that they carry it over to the next one – so it becomes a string of unhealthy relationships after another.

Whilst, people who are still in unhealthy relationships are in great danger of losing themselves in it. They focus too much on their relationships and their partners that they lose sight of who they are and how they deserve to be treated. And before they know it, they are lost in the relationship and they become walking zombies of a lover, only without the love.

The anger, the jealousy, the pain – they become so used to it that they think that’s the only way they know how to be loved.

If you see yourself in any of these situations, free yourself and your girlfriend from more damage and hurt and get out of that relationship at once.  Do not wallow! Go out and date. You probably need Matt Ganz’ opinion on asking girls out on dates if you are still stuck.

Good luck.

Dating Tips for Nerdy Dudes

There are the good guys, the bad guys, and the popular guys. Then there are the nerdy guys. Of the four categories mentioned, the last group – the “nerds” – often has it hardest when it comes to dating. Not to stereotype or anything but the bookworms and the science geeks whose social life consists of trips to the library and astronomy group meets are almost always the single ones in a group, and the ones that are almost always left in the friendzone.

But that’s not always how it should be! Nerds are actually fun an interesting people, and their level of intelligence is just almost always higher than everyone else’s (probably the exact same reason why socializing isn’t as easy for them as it is for the most of us of lower IQ levels). Plus, their interests are always different from that of ours. They are interested in the sciences, Math’s, languages and philosophies – things that most people are hardly interested about. Thus romance is almost always elusive to them – especially if most people surrounding them are interested in only the latest gossip in Hollywood.

If you’re a nerdy guy and dating has always been very challenging for you, maybe it’s time you need a dating booster. Here are some tips on how to boost your dating life:

  • Have more confidence in yourself. Come on dude. You’re smart! You’re smarter than most of us! You can probably speak and read Phoenician in your sleep. Knowing how to text her to make her like you should not be rocket science! You have a loooot of things that most of only see in Sheldon Cooper and his friends. You are someone we can all look up to as far as your intelligence is concerned. Instead of being a wall flower and keep your intelligence to yourself, be more like Professor Charles Xavier – using his intelligence and special gifts with utmost confidence. There’s no you shouldn’t!
  • Improve yourself in ways you think you are lacking. Apparently, your brains are never a problem to you. But of course, you want to make a woman fall in love with you. If you think you need to improve yourself in the looks department or your conversation skills, by all means do so. Have someone – preferably a female friend or relative – help you on that. Go to the dermatologist for bad skin, go shopping for fancier clothes, and maybe practice conversations with another person. This may not exactly bring in the ladies in a snap of a finger, but it will definitely help boost your self-confidence.
  • Get out there and see the world. No, you don’t need to go out and party if the partying crowd is not what you’re after. But don’t seclude yourself from the rest of the world because you’re only decreasing your chances of meeting people – and of course, meeting women. Try out something new, go for a new hobby or interest and meet new friends along the way.
  • Talk. Talk to anyone new you know about the things that interest you. Don’t be discouraged if they get bored or disinterested – your IQ might just be too high for you. Somewhere along the way you’ll find someone who’ll find your stories as interesting as you are.

Lastly, don’t forget to smile. A smile can move people and a smile has the power to hide your nerves and insecurities. And most importantly, smile because it suits you.

How to Catch a Cheating Girlfriend

LISTEN UP: Cheating is bad. It’s the single most disgusting and biggest betrayal to your lover’s trust. There is hardly anything in this world that could make for the best excuse for cheating. It’s just plain bad.

Men, women, homosexuals, bisexuals – it’s not a matter of gender preference anymore. When we are only used to seeing men cheat, these days, everyone cheats. But just because everyone is doing it does not make it any less bad.

Yes– it happens. One minute you make her fall in love with you, then the next you think she’s cheating on you. It can only get worse if you are on the disadvantaged side – if you are the one being cheated on. If your girlfriend is straying, or if you think she is, here are some tips on how to catch her red-handed;

Observe her actions.

You do not need to master the art of hypnosis and fractionation to observe. She’s cold towards you. She’s having quiet and discreet conversations on the phone. She’s more secretive about her things. And she’s spending less time with you and more time with her ‘friends’. Heck, she’s not even bugging you to go shopping with her! Monitor her activities and list them down if you should. This may not exactly help you yet to catch her in the act of cheating, but it will definitely help back you up when a confrontation arises.

Do ask her.

Do not be confrontational or accusatory. In fact, don’t ask her in the face if she’s cheating on you. Like the many times you’ve successfully asked her to have sex with you without actually mentioning the word ‘sex’, go ahead and ask her if there’s someone else. Again, do not be confrontational and accusatory. Doing so will only make her defensive and stop her from telling you the truth – whatever it is. Talking about it calmly and maybe nicely would touch into her gut and rock her conscience and will eventually make her spit out the truth. State your sentence along the lines of ‘Is there anything wrong?’ or ‘Do we have a problem?’ While at it, continue observing her demeanor – it might just give you the answer you need.

Hire a private detective.

If you can afford it, hire someone to follow her every action. Private investigators are armed not only with the right knowledge on how to stalk and gather evidence on people, but are likewise equipped with the right tools to do so. Here’s a true-to-life account on how someone used a private investigator to catch her cheating spouse from Daily Mail UK. Just remember, if you’re hiring a private investigator, make sure you’re getting one from a reliable firm. You wouldn’t want to waste time and money on someone unreliable.

Stalk her.

Okay– last resort– if you can’t afford an investigator, or at least feel the need to do things and see things yourself, then by all means do so. But remember these: (1) don’t use your car, (2) don’t mention anything to her until you have your evidence in hand, (3) be emotionally ready for this. Being cheated on can be the worst, most painful thing to happen to you and it can be distressing. Others have killed because they have been cheated on – don’t do the same. The safest way is to bring a reliable friend with you on your stalking mission.