“Dating is never the same for any two men, or women. There are always different factors that come into play that helps decide how the entire dating process would go and how the results would be.”
Nonetheless, there are certain things that should be on every man’s list of essential tools for dating. These are the tools that will help boost your chances at a successful date – and by successful, we mean something that would become something more significant.
Hey hey hey gentlemen, get your checklists now and make sure that you have all of these things in your essential tools for dating:
A good and reliable wingman. This wingman has to be someone you trust, knows you so well, and has a totally different taste in women (just to be safe, even friends compete over women, you know). Your wingman need not exactly be your best friend; what he should be is someone who knows how to talk to women and more importantly, knows how to build you up to women. After all, that’s what they’re supposed to do anyway.
The right dating wardrobe. You have to have a separate wardrobe for dating. It’s not at all vanity – it’s just putting more perspective, more impressive angle into your dating life. After all, you are not exactly the same person at work than you are as a lover so why not translate that into your own wardrobe too? (This helps if your date knows you from work or from your everyday so it would be an impressive breather to see you in something different and more stylish). Keep it to something you’re completely comfortable in though!
Cash or a trusty credit. Whilst we live in a day and age where men and women are equal and splitting the bill is expected, the first date is still almost always a man’s responsibility to pay up for it. And besides, there’s always a little thingamajig to get her – flowers, cards, chocolates, the works. So just have some ready for them.
A ready stash of pickup lines. You can never be too sure when you’ll need a pickup line for one or two dates. It works with some, it doesn’t with others but hey – you can never be too ready either! So just have a few lines ready – it’s pretty good for breaking the ice too.
Humor. There is nothing that humor can’t fix nor bridge. We all need humor every now and then and especially on a date. Make her feel good about being with you and she’ll more than likely enjoy your company as well. So try a hand at humor without trying too hard; let it flow naturally.
A good relationship with the women in your life – your mom (especially), your sisters, female cousins, and female friends. You may not necessarily have a female best buddy nor an expert with women but having them around will always give you a healthy insight on how to deal with and how to properly treat women. Plus the free tips and the wardrobe-slash-general-dating-advice would be very awesome.
how to make a girl your girlfriend? Impress her! REMEMBER: First impressions last. That is why it is important to make a good one on the first date not only for the sake of getting a second date but also for the sake of not gaining a bad rep among the ladies for being a bad date, be sure not to do the ways to annoy a girl (that should hurt your dating portfolio).
And more often than not, the biggest factor that comes into play on a first date is on conversations. After all, what comes out of your mouth is always the biggest giveaway to the kind of person you are. What you tell the woman will be the deciding factor of whether or not you’re interesting enough for another date, and for a chance to get to know better.
However, not all men are born with the gift of the word. Others fumble for the right words to say, while others could not even find anything to say at all. If you are one of those men who are challenged when it comes to first date convo, these tips might just be for you.
Things You Should Never Tell on your FIRST Date
I could not exactly tell you what to say, but I can tell you things that you should never say to a woman on the first date:
You look like my ex/You remind me of my ex. First off, women hate being compared (and I believe men hate it too). That’s not really the best way to compliment her, no matter how outstanding your ex had been. Secondly, you don’t and never bring up the “ex” on the first date, not even on the second. The ex is a very dangerous, traitorous topic to talk about on the first date. Trust me, your date will hate you for it. The possibility of a relationship with you in the future would be too shady for the lady – she’d think that you only like her because she reminds you of someone else and not because she is good enough.
You are my Nth date tonight. Ahh but of course, a little ego picker upper for the insecure man. Yes, it is never an indication of confidence when you brag about how many women you’ve been with for the night. The fact that you mention it is a good indicator that you are too insecure that you satisfy yourself with the thought of making a count of the women you go out with in a night; that and making sure that your current date knows that she’s not the only one. Surprise boys: it is not attractive.
I’m not looking for anything serious. Dates are made to have single people meet each other for the possibility of starting a relationship. It may not work but at least you know that you’ve used the chance to start something new. Dropping this bomb on the first date puts the whole idea of dating into barren grounds and you’d make the girl feel like she’s wasted her time with a guy who wasn’t even more than just a dinner.
Please pay for what you’re eating. This is the age of girl power, where men and women are equal. And yes, this is the day when men and women split the bill on a date. But that does not mean you have rub that off in her face in a most insulting manner. Women know their worth and their obligations, and they are responsible for themselves including the things they order for your dinner date. This is downright rude and unbecoming of a gentleman.
I’m not over my ex yet. For reasons why this is bad, please refer to numbers 1 and 3. And PS: if you’re not over your ex, you should not even be thinking about dating. Enough said!
Here also some tips so you’ll know what to do on your first date 🙂